The Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “None of you truly believes until you love for your brother what you love for yourself.” [Sahih Bukhari]
Wouldn’t each of us love to have other people think positively about them and make excuses for them rather than rush to condemn them? Then love this for your fellow Muslims too, if you want to count as a true believer.
A doctor entered the hospital in a hurry after being called in for an urgent surgery. He changed his clothes and went directly to the surgery block. He found the boy’s father pacing the hall impatiently.
“Why did you take so long to come? Don’t you know my son’s life is in danger? Don’t you have any sense of responsibility?” yelled the Dad as he set eyes on him.
“I’m sorry, I wasn’t in the hospital and I came as fast as I could after receiving the call. And now, I wish you’d calm down so that I could do my work” said the Doctor soothingly.
“Calm down! What if it were your son in this room instead? Would you calm down? If your own son were to die now, what would you do?”
The doctor replied: “I will say, ‘From dust we came and to dust we return, blessed be the name of Allah.’ Doctors cannot prolong lives. Go and intercede for your son, we will do our best by Allah’s grace.”
“Giving advice when we’re not concerned is so easy...” murmured the father.
The surgery took a few hours after which the doctor came out looking relieved: “Thank goodness! Your son is saved!” And without waiting for the father’s reply, he hurried out: “If you have any questions, please ask the nurse.”
“Why is he so arrogant? Couldn’t he wait for a few questions about my son’s state?” the father asked the nurse.
Unable to control her tears, the nurse answered, “His son died yesterday in a road accident; he was at the burial when we called him for your son’s surgery. And now that he has done what he could to save his life, he left to finish his son’s burial.”
It's kinder to ask questions than to assume. Caught up in our own lives and drama, we are often unaware of what's going on in another's life. Be positive versus fault-finding. Love for them the opinion that you would love for yourself.